Why I decided to become a Self-Love coach

The 27 years I spent in the beauty business gave me such an awareness about how we talk and feel about ourselves. Let’s just say we are definitely our own worst friend-nemy! Clients would sit in my chair and instantly rip themselves apart.

“Eww! Look at my hair! It looks like a brillo pad. And OMG! Those roots. Yuck! I’m just so old and gray. I really need a face lift, it looks like my face is falling. Ugh! I hate these mirrors, I’m so fat. The muffin top is gross. I’m just so, so fat!…”

I would abruptly stop and ask, “Listen to yourself…Would you be friends with someone if they said those things to you whenever they saw you?”

The question is such a pattern interruption to their thinking, that I’m often met with hostility, even though I am bringing awareness to how they talk about themselves. Once they’ve gotten over their initial shock, and realize I’m coming from a place of love, they soften and say, “You know.. You’re right. I would never be friends with someone who spoke to me that way. I’m gonna be better about how I think and talk about myself.”

This happens way too often. I’m also guilty of the assault against myself. Although it may not be out loud, the thoughts cross my mind. When I notice those thoughts I instantly switch my mindset from judgemental and critical to loving and encouraging. I look in the mirror and start to tell myself what I’m grateful for. It usually starts with being grateful for my resilience. 

Those instances are when I decided to help people become their own biggest cheerleaders. We all have that within us, some of us, most of us, need help finding that version of ourselves. That’s where a coach comes in. A good coach will help you develop those tools and turn them into habits.

What would happen if instead of having such a vile reaction to our own shadows, we met ourselves through the eyes of kindness and love? If instead we chose the words “I am so proud of you and your resilience. You are beautiful..I am beautiful! I am kind. I am grateful for arriving at this moment with strength and grace.” If we focused on our heart center before we released words to the vision of ourselves. What would that feel like? I sometimes like to guide my clients to imagine the 3 year old version of themselves and speak to her in that way. Gentle and kind. Loving and encouraging. As if the world is limitless and abundant, because it is. 

I’m sure you’re asking what the heck a Self Love coach is? I’m basically a life coach but I focus on aspects of what Self-Love is. I believe that our overall wellness is crucial to living a centered life. Our environment dictates what our life becomes. If we sit in a space full of junk food and negativity, we become our environment. Unwell feelings and limiting beliefs is what would truly resonate. If we allow ourselves to become aware of this environment we can do something to change it. We can become the version of ourselves we truly desire. 

My experience as a former parent to a special needs child, my own chronic illness and a bout with cancer has made overall wellness a top priority. What we put in and on our bodies, along with what we read, watch, believe, and feel is truly what creates our life and how we live, or suffer on a daily basis. My previous career as a beauty pro has given me the knowledge that when we feel great about the outside, it can help boost our confidence on the inside. It’s about consistency and creation. That’s what I do with my clients, I help them align and elevate both of who one is on the inside and outside.

If your focus is to bring more Self Love into your life, let’s connect and get started on your journey.